Abuse
Anastasia
Christian Grey's behaviour describes a Psychopath Fifty Shades of Abuse-sex contract
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Fifty Shades of Abuse and Control
Run Anastasia...... run now.....get back on that helicopter and don't look back.....the warning signs were there at the start. She was just so innocent and naive to see them. Know this so well, this was me.....so many women who fell into this trap of this sort of man. You are left hurt and scared when you come to your senses. Just like Anastasia, but she was in his net and he sucked her back in. Know that feeling also so well, i left more than once.
Christian says to Anastasia that he would find her if she hides from him if she runs away. He would find her anywhere she goes. (warning, warning.)
“Does this mean you’re going to make love to me tonight, Christian?” Holy shit. Did I just say that? His mouth drops open slightly, but he recovers quickly.
“No, Anastasia it doesn’t. Firstly, I don’t make love. I fuck… hard”.
“No, Anastasia it doesn’t. Firstly, I don’t make love. I fuck… hard”.
“Do you do this to people or do they do it to you?”
His mouth quirks up, either amused or relieved.
“People?” He blinks a couple of times as he considers his answer. “I do this to women who want me to.”
I don’t understand.
“If you have willing volunteers, why am I here?”
“Because I want to do this with you, very much.”
“Oh,” I gasp. Why?
I wander to the far corner of the room and pat the waist high padded bench and run my fingers over the leather. He likes to hurt women. The thought depresses me.
“You’re a sadist?” (yes Anastasia i am into sadomasochism and i am a Psychopath)
“I’m a Dominant.” His eyes are a scorching gray, intense.
“What does that mean?” I whisper.
“It means I want you to willingly surrender yourself to me, in all things.”
I frown at him as I try to assimilate this idea.
“Why would I do that?”
“To please me,” he whispers as he cocks his head to one side, and I see a ghost of a smile.
Please him! He wants me to please him! I think my mouth drops open. Please Christian Grey. And I realize, in that moment, that yes, that’s exactly what I want to do. I want him to be damned delighted with me. It’s a revelation.
“In very simple terms, I want you to want to please me,” he says softly. His voice is hypnotic.
“How do I do that?” My mouth is dry, and I wish I had more wine. Okay, I understand the pleasing bit, but I am puzzled by the soft-boudoir-Elizabethan-torture set up. Do I want to know the answer?
“I have rules, and I want you to comply with them. They are for your benefit and for my pleasure. If you follow these rules to my satisfaction, I shall reward you. If you don’t, I shall punish you, and you will learn,” he whispers. I glance at the rack of canes as he says this.
“And where does all this fit in?” I wave my hand in the general direction of the room.
“It’s all part of the incentive package. Both reward and punishment.”
“So you’ll get your kicks by exerting your will over me.”
“It’s about gaining your trust and your respect, so you’ll let me exert my will over you. I will gain a great deal of pleasure, joy, even in your submission. The more you submit, the greater my joy – it’s a very simple equation.”
“Okay, and what do I get out of this?”
“Me,” he says simply.
His mouth quirks up, either amused or relieved.
“People?” He blinks a couple of times as he considers his answer. “I do this to women who want me to.”
I don’t understand.
“If you have willing volunteers, why am I here?”
“Because I want to do this with you, very much.”
“Oh,” I gasp. Why?
I wander to the far corner of the room and pat the waist high padded bench and run my fingers over the leather. He likes to hurt women. The thought depresses me.
“You’re a sadist?” (yes Anastasia i am into sadomasochism and i am a Psychopath)
“I’m a Dominant.” His eyes are a scorching gray, intense.
“What does that mean?” I whisper.
“It means I want you to willingly surrender yourself to me, in all things.”
I frown at him as I try to assimilate this idea.
“Why would I do that?”
“To please me,” he whispers as he cocks his head to one side, and I see a ghost of a smile.
Please him! He wants me to please him! I think my mouth drops open. Please Christian Grey. And I realize, in that moment, that yes, that’s exactly what I want to do. I want him to be damned delighted with me. It’s a revelation.
“In very simple terms, I want you to want to please me,” he says softly. His voice is hypnotic.
“How do I do that?” My mouth is dry, and I wish I had more wine. Okay, I understand the pleasing bit, but I am puzzled by the soft-boudoir-Elizabethan-torture set up. Do I want to know the answer?
“I have rules, and I want you to comply with them. They are for your benefit and for my pleasure. If you follow these rules to my satisfaction, I shall reward you. If you don’t, I shall punish you, and you will learn,” he whispers. I glance at the rack of canes as he says this.
“And where does all this fit in?” I wave my hand in the general direction of the room.
“It’s all part of the incentive package. Both reward and punishment.”
“So you’ll get your kicks by exerting your will over me.”
“It’s about gaining your trust and your respect, so you’ll let me exert my will over you. I will gain a great deal of pleasure, joy, even in your submission. The more you submit, the greater my joy – it’s a very simple equation.”
“Okay, and what do I get out of this?”
“Me,” he says simply.
“Is it easy to find women who want to do this?”
He raises an eyebrow at me.
“You’d be amazed,” he says dryly.
“Then why me? I really don’t understand.”
“Anastasia, I’ve told you. There’s something about you. I can’t leave you alone.” He smiles ironically. “I’m like a moth to a flame.” His voice darkens.
He raises an eyebrow at me.
“You’d be amazed,” he says dryly.
“Then why me? I really don’t understand.”
“Anastasia, I’ve told you. There’s something about you. I can’t leave you alone.” He smiles ironically. “I’m like a moth to a flame.” His voice darkens.
“How many women?” I blurt out the question, but I’m so curious.
“Fifteen.”
Oh… not as many as I thought.
“For long periods of time?”
“Some of them, yes.”
“Have you ever hurt anyone?”
“Yes.”
Holy shit.
“Badly?”
“No.”
“Will you hurt me?”
“What do you mean?”
“Physically, will you hurt me?”
“I will punish you when you require it, and it will be painful.”
“Fifteen.”
Oh… not as many as I thought.
“For long periods of time?”
“Some of them, yes.”
“Have you ever hurt anyone?”
“Yes.”
Holy shit.
“Badly?”
“No.”
“Will you hurt me?”
“What do you mean?”
“Physically, will you hurt me?”
“I will punish you when you require it, and it will be painful.”
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The sex contract of Christian Grey- megalomaniac-Psychopath......E L James.
Warning to all the innocent young women and gullible women; this is not normal, this is a signal that there is something wrong with this guy. Alarm bells should be ringing about now.
RULES
Obedience:
The Submissive will obey any instructions given by the Dominant immediately without hesitation or reservation and in an expeditious manner. The Submissive will agree to any sexual activity deemed fit and pleasurable by the Dominant excepting those activities which are outlined in hard limits (Appendix 2). She will do so eagerly and without hesitation.
Sleep:
The Submissive will ensure she achieves a minimum of seven hours sleep a night when she is not with the Dominant.
Food:
The Submissive will eat regularly to maintain her health and wellbeing from a prescribed list of foods (Appendix 4). The Submissive will not snack between meals, with the exception of fruit.
Clothes:
During the Term, the Submissive will wear clothing only approved by the Dominant. The Dominant will provide a clothing budget for the Submissive, which the Submissive shall utilize. The Dominant shall accompany the Submissive to purchase clothing on an ad hoc basis. If the Dominant so requires, the Submissive shall during the Term any adornments the Dominant shall require, in the presence of the Dominant and any other time the Dominant deems fit.
Exercise:
The Dominant shall provide the Submissive with a personal trainer four times a week in hour-long sessions at times to be mutually agreed between the personal trainer and the Submissive. The personal trainer will report to the Dominant on the Submissive’s progress.
Personal Hygiene/Beauty:
The Submissive will keep herself clean and shaved and/or waxed at all times. The Submissive will visit a beauty salon of the Dominant’s choosing at times to be decided by the Dominant, and undergo whatever treatments the Dominant sees fit.
Personal Safety:
The Submissive will not drink to excess, smoke, take recreational drugs, or put herself in any unnecessary danger.
Personal Qualities:
The Submissive will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Dominant. The Submissive will conduct herself in a respectful and modest manner at all times. She must recognize that her behavior is a direct reflection on the Dominant. She shall be held accountable for any misdeeds, wrongdoings, and misbehavior committed when not in the presence of the Dominant.
Failure to comply with any of the above will result in immediate punishment, the nature of which shall be determined by the Dominant.
Holy fuck. Anastasia said......you should have run then Anastasia.
“Anastasia, I need you supple, strong, and with stamina. Trust me, you need to exercise.” (because i am going to beat the shit out of you with my whips, and fuck you seven shades of Sunday)
Hard Limits (so if Anastasia had been happy with hard limits he would have done this to her also)
No acts involving fire play
No acts involving urination or defecation and the products thereof
No acts involving needles, knives, piercing, or blood
No acts involving gynecological medical instruments
No acts involving children or animals
No acts that will leave any permanent marks on the skin
No acts involving breath control
No acts involving fire play
No acts involving urination or defecation and the products thereof
No acts involving needles, knives, piercing, or blood
No acts involving gynecological medical instruments
No acts involving children or animals
No acts that will leave any permanent marks on the skin
No acts involving breath control
Ugh. He has to write these down! Of course – they all look very sensible, and frankly, necessary… any sane person wouldn’t want to be involved in this sort of thing surely? Though I now feel a little queasy.
“Is there anything you’d like to add?”
“Is there anything you’d like to add?”
“I don’t know.”
“What do you mean you don’t know?”
I squirm uncomfortably and bite my lip.
“I’ve never done anything like this.”
“Well, when you’ve had sex, was there anything that you didn’t like doing?”
For the first time in what seems to be ages, I blush.
“What do you mean you don’t know?”
I squirm uncomfortably and bite my lip.
“I’ve never done anything like this.”
“Well, when you’ve had sex, was there anything that you didn’t like doing?”
For the first time in what seems to be ages, I blush.
“Tell me,” he commands.
“Well… I’ve not had sex before, so I don’t know.”
“Never?” he whispers. I shake my head.
“You’re a virgin?” he breathes. I nod, flushing again. He closes his eyes and looks to be counting to ten. When he opens them again, he’s angry, glaring at me.
“Why the fuck didn’t you tell me?” he growls.
“You’re a virgin?” he breathes. I nod, flushing again. He closes his eyes and looks to be counting to ten. When he opens them again, he’s angry, glaring at me.
“Why the fuck didn’t you tell me?” he growls.
Christian is running both his hands through his hair and pacing up and down his study. Two hands – that’s double exasperation. His usual concrete control seems to have slipped a notch.
“I don’t understand why you didn’t tell me,” he castigates me.
“I don’t understand why you didn’t tell me,” he castigates me.
I want you. I’ve wanted you since you fell into my office,
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Perfect article once again again. I work in the court system i see the victims of abuse and rape every single day. The FSOG books glamorize abuse, show you how to abuse a women in fact. Target a naive, silent girl, one who may be venerable, shy.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and i have a very healthy sex life, we do bondage, toys etc. We have even done another person joining us, but it was done with full consent...absolute consent. We certainly don't need a contract to have this relationship. The other doesn't have to exert full control over the other 24/7, to get their rocks off.
This is just another way of abusing that person, both physically and Psychologically, having to control every single aspect of their life. Sorry but what sick perverse persons needs to do this. It actually says more about those people having many issues themselves.
The Fifty Shades of Grey people, the people that work for E L James marketing company, manning their bloody five hundred twitter accounts and websites are really starting to piss me off. I have now muted that many re-tweets from people. I do not see any other films, movie stars, studios pumping out the media shit like FSOG do. It is over kill well and truly. Now they are putting pictures up of Jamie and Dakota taken at the UK premier of the movie with the movie poster written on it Fifty Shades Darker. The studio hasn't even said yes to another movie yet. What is E L James going to finance it herself, write the scripts, produce it, market it....she is narcissist enough to do it, and lets face it she did just make a bucket load of cash about abuse.
My husband is in marketing, he said they have to do this because the books were trash so was the movie and they have to do this to over shadow the bad press. If they didn't spend bucket loads of cash on marketing they would fade into the distance....bloody hell i wish they would.
It's always good to see more people tackling this abomination. I wanted to point out a few things:
ReplyDelete1) Subs IRL can end the relationship at any time. This contract says that ana can "submit a request" if she isn't exploring her sexuality (Christian pulls the "I have more experience so I know your body better than you" card), she is sick (he'd just call a doctor), he doesn't fulfill his part of the contract (he lies constantly and moves the goalposts so that Ana always falls short), or he endangers her (*sarcastic laughter*).
2) The "hard limits" list are the things he absolutely refuses. HL mean "NO, and that's not negotiable". He gives her a list of possible activities to consent/set as soft limits(I want to try, but with caution)/hard limits, but he steamrolls her reserves on caning and anal.
3) This isn't a Dom/sub contract. Ketmakura on Das-Sporking pointed out that this is a Master/Slave relationship- it extends outside the bedroom and the slave has far less rights. And even then, the slave can leave the relationship at any time.
4) Speaking of contracts, they aren't legally binding. In real-life BDSM, they're basically roleplay props. Yet Ana thinks it's legal. She later discovers that it's not, and in chapter 13 she confronts Christian and asks him when he would've told her so. He never gives a straight answer.
Very well put, you are very right about the contract and with the contract Christian has with Anastasia. Thank you for pointing this out for everyone that this is a "master and slave contract".
DeleteI have done law i know they are not legally binding, this however can be if it is in fact taken before a lawyer and witnessed and signed, then you would have an argument to put before a judge for the contract to be up held.
It is important to point out to the younger audience the innocent naive young women, that may think this is all fun and roses and hearts.....this sort of relationship in book one of Fifty Shades of Grey is not a healthy relationship, it is not a healthy relationship period when a man is going to stalk you, control every aspect of your life. This is one of the main points we are trying to get across to young women, who now have this miss conception that is is fine for a man to treat you this way. I am sure they are also young men in relationships with other young men or older men who may be in a similar situation.
We are seeing the response from young girls as young as 16 years old on twitter and other social media who think this is a wonderful fantasy to be dominated like this. They are too young to know wrong from right and some have no one to guide them also.
I would like to post your reply if you don't mind as i think it has a lot to say and very well put.
DeleteThrough a friend of my husbands he obtained a copy of the movie. I actually watched it again last night because i wanted to see how they changed the movie from the book.
They tamed down the movie quite a bit from the books, leaving out a lot of abuse and control by Christian. I know E L James wasn't happy she wanted the abuse in the movie. At least someone at the Studio say sense not to include this.
At the end when Anna recoils from Christian after he has hit her and really hurt her. She wont have a bar of him not even in the elevator, but yet in the book, Anna says its her fault, she keeps saying it is her fault all the time.
I was actually going to write about that, i could put your comment also in the article.
When i made the background i copied from the book i had to leave this part out about Anna saying it was her fault, otherwise it would be on the page for everyone to see permanently. i might see if i can redesign the background to include this.
Yes, I do allow the use of my post (it is already public, after all). Retroactively, in this case.
DeleteI wasn't clear on hard limits, though: in BDSM, "hard" limits are the activities that one of the partner absolutely refuses. "Soft" limits are things someone isn't sure about, but is willing to try with caution.
Limits can be set by both partners (generally by the sub/slave/bottom, which, while it's the "weaker" half of the couple, calls all the shots, sets the limits and can stop the Dom at any moment), but neither of them has the right to force the other into giving up them.
Fifty Shades of Grey official pages of E L James were on twitter trash taking down the movie FOCUS with Will Smith and Margo Robbie. (last night) "Are they really doing this", they have to trash talk other movie and their stars. They have already trash talked the Oscars because they know dam well they are never going to get one.
ReplyDeleteThat conversation was on twitter also, i screen shot it.
I saw red, giving them a serve, sending tweet after tweet to give them my message.....telling them their movie received the most shocking reviews, top magazines in the world and reviewers gave it the thumbs down a 1/10.....movie sucked, books sucked, i hated them all so did my friends. Only did well at the box office because you had to market the shit out of it, building the crap out of it, releasing that many god dam video clips sucking the target audience in, sucking them in to pre-buy their tickets before the movie was even screening. After it screened well what a downer. Dropped by 80% in the polls. All the hype over, the movie was the worst i have seen, my husband agreed, he is in marketing so he knows what he is talking about.
Then they have the nerve to go on and trash talk two top Hollywood actors and their movie that hasn't even started here in Australia yet.
They said Focus pinched their music, pinched their promos, their marketing strategy etc. "Are you fucking serious".
Un-followed Fifty Shades of utter fucking crap and muted their conversations. The picture comes from google that is how much others think of this crap. (copied this from my google account, i do have a picture also)
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